If you’ve ever been in a relationship (or been on the internet), chances are you’ve heard about the 5 Love Languages. Maybe you’ve taken the quiz, memorized the results and know exactly what love language you and all your exes/friends/current partner speak(s).

If you haven’t, here is what you need to know: the five love languages, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. (Psst: learn more about them in his book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.)

The idea is that every single person gives, receives and needs love in a unique way, not just in a relationship with your partner, but the one you have with yourself, too. You might have a connection to more than one language, but Dr. Chapman says everyone “has a primary love language which speaks more deeply to you than all the others.”

Once you discover which love language you (or your partner) are most fluent in, you can find out which intimate products speak directly to your heart (literally).

Words of Affirmation
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, words of affirmation is the most common of the five love languages. If this is your love language, then you thrive off compliments and communication. You feel best when you’re sincerely praised and told how much you’re loved and appreciated, or when you’re the one doing the praising.

Your product match

If you’re in a relationship:
Hot Date Night
Hot Date Night includes four sizzling decks with 100 of the sexiest questions and suggestions— that means you and your partner can up the intimacy and speak to your love language at the same time.

For yourself:
Tongue Tied
Let this clitoral vibe do all the talking with its unique tongue shaped designed to mimic the thrill of oral favors right where you want it the most. With 10 functions and two textures to choose from, your oral fixation is sure to be satisfied.

Acts of Service
You love when others take out the trash, complete a chore that you can’t stand or go out of their way to do something they know will make you genuinely happy. Despite the name, this love language is not about being someone’s literal servant (unless you’re into that) or about physical gifts, but simple gestures that show someone how much they are loved.

Your product match

If you’re in a relationship:
Whipped
If acts of service are your forte, then consider Whipped the ultimate win-win! You and your partner will both benefit from this kissable, creamy lubricant, and any acts of service that follow (wink, wink) will taste out of this world!

For yourself:
Main Attraction
Main Attraction is a full-service vibe that goes above and beyond to make you the star of the show. With 10 speeds of clitoral vibration and 10 speeds of shaft vibration that tease and please, this rechargeable, bath-friendly dual action toy has everything you want and more.

Receiving Gifts
This love language is a little bit more obvious: you either love being showered with gifts or you’re the one doing the showering. And honestly, who doesn’t like a gift now and then? But in this case, it’s not necessarily about big, extravagant gifts. As Dr. Chapman explains, it’s more about “picking the right gift that shows you understand your partner and the effort you made to express love.”

Your product match

If you’re in a relationship:
Hidden Agenda
Discreet and decadent, Hidden Agenda is a 2-in-1 gift for you and your partner: a soft-as-silk bullet vibrator for you paired with a wireless wristband remote for them. Turn up the heat from across the room or make date night a truly intimate affair with the push of a button.

For yourself:
Euforia V39
When you’re the gift giver and receiver, you know exactly what you deserve: pure pleasure and ultimate luxury. That’s where the Euforia V39 comes in. Transcend the everyday and court ecstasy with this premium silicone, 18k-karat and rose gold plated vibrator.

Quality Time
There’s a difference between being in someone’s presence and spending real, meaningful time with them. That means giving another person your undivided attention, actively listening and doing something together that you enjoy. Think: traveling, making dinner or getting hot and heavy in the bedroom.

Your product match

If you’re in a relationship:
Vitamin Sea
Pleasure is best when you and your partner get to experience it together and this silicone c-ring does exactly that. Designed with Hydrathrill technology, Vitamin Sea sends intense vibrations through every inch of the body, creating deeper, longer-lasting orgasms so that your quality time is (very!) well spent.

For yourself:
Oh Em Gee
Locating the legendary G-spot isn’t always easy and has the potential to be rather time-consuming. Oh Em Gee’s flexible, curved shaft is designed to hit the right spot all day long, giving you even more time to spend on yourself and all the self-love your love language requires.

Physical Touch
While getting intimate might be one of the ways you express love, physical touch can be as simple as holding hands or touching someone’s arm during a conversation to show that you care about what they have to say. You’re naturally a touchy-feely person and crave skin-to-skin contact.

Your product match

If you’re in a relationship:
Burning Desire
Intimacy and touch go hand-in-hand, and there’s few things more intimate than a sensual, heated massage. Burn this soy massage oil candle and let the warm, rich oil ignite the true powers of physical touch.

For yourself:
Just One Touch
Embedded with contact-responsive sensors that only vibrate when touching skin, this versatile wand massager’s 6 vibrations can be adjusted from low to high intensities with just a swipe of your finger. Use the ridged silicone massager to tease the vulva, clitoris, testicles, and more. Now that’s the power of touch!