There are many variables that can impact your sexual interest. Stress, anxiety, depression, medications, and chronic illness all influence how sexy and interested we feel. Besides medical and psychological issues, our partners may also influence our level of sexual desire. Here are a few tips to help revitalize your desire.

1. Focus on your Relationship

Many couples experience a lull in sexual intimacy and frequency during a variety of life changes. Pregnancy, child rearing, and even the duration of the relationship can influence your level of desire. Try to improve communication with your partner, plan hot sexy date nights (in the backyard during the pandemic). Spend quality time together outside the bedroom!

2. Spice it Up

Novelty will boost your humdrum sex life and may boost your libido as well. Try extended sessions of foreplay, introduce new sex toys or try a flavored lubricant. Spice it up with oral sex or other sexual adventures that you wouldn’t normally consider. Read an erotic book or watch a sensual movie together.

3. Focus on Sleep and Exercise

Sleep will help eliminate fatigue and boost your energy level. Some data suggests good sleep may boost your libido. A heart healthy diet may bolster your overall health and sex drive. Try one like the Mediterranean diet, which focuses on fruits and vegetables, and even includes some red wine.

4. Try Complementary or Alternative Interventions

Even though data maybe limited, many men and women are opting for herbal remedies or complementary medical interventions to help their sex lives. Some remedies that may improve sexual function may include: Maca, Tribulus, Horny Goat Weed, Gingko and Ginseng, but data is limited. Do your research and ask your health care professional what may be right for you. Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center has an excellent integrative medicine called, which can be a great resource.

5. Do not Ignore Medical and Psychological Conditions

Chronic medical conditions, medications, depression, anxiety, and hormonal imbalances are often the culprits for causing low sexual interest. Do not be afraid to consult a health care professional or sexual medicine expert to see if there are contributing biological issues impacting your libido. There are medications that are FDA approved for both men and women that may help restore your interest.

Michael Krychman
Michael L. Krychman, MDCM, is the Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine located in Newport Beach California. He is the former Co Director of The Sexual Medicine and Rehabilitation Program at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer. He also is a clinical sexologist and has completed his Masters in Public Health and Human Sexuality. Dr Krychman has a degree in Erotology, Sexual Education and Forensic Sexology. Dr Krychman is also an AASECT certified sexual counselor. He is an Associate Clinical Professor at the University of California Irvine, Division of Gynecological Oncology and the Medical Director of Ann’s Clinic, a high-risk program for Breast and Ovarian Cancer Survivors.

His special interests include menopausal health, hormone therapy, sexual pain disorders, and loss of libido, chronic medical illness and medical devices and their impact on female sexual function. He is a well-known speaker who is featured locally, nationally and internationally. He has published many articles in peer-reviewed journals and has been featured in many scientific journals and lay magazines. Dr Krychman is an active reviewer for the Journal of Sexual Medicine. He was the Scientific Chairman for the 2010 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health annual educational meeting. He is an active member in good standing in North American Menopause (NAMS), International Society sexual Medicine (ISSM), European Society Sexual Medicine (ESSM), International Society Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), American Society of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). He was a member of the Standard Committee for ISSM and has been a guest professor at the ESSM Sexual Medicine Summer School in Oxford, England. He was the creator of the recent WISH Initiative (Women’ Initiative on Sexual Health: and the 2013 recipient of the WISH Outstanding Achievement award given by the ISSWSH. He is also on the professional advisory board for the Patty Brisben Foundation.

Dr. Krychman’s has published 7 books including his most recent one: The Sexual Spark, 20 Essential Exercises to Reignite the Passion, 100 Questions & Answers for Women Living with Cancer: A Practical Guide to Female Cancer Survivorship has been recently published, 100 Questions and Answers about Women’s Sexual Wellness and Vitality and Breast cancer Sexuality, Sensuality and Intimacy. He has been featured on the Today show and in the New York Times and US News and World Report World Report, The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Health Magazine and many others. He was named one of Orange County Top Doctors for 2015 and 2016 in Menopause, Sexual Dysfunction and Vulvar Pain. In 2019 and again in 2020, he has been named an Orange County Physician of Excellence by Orange Coast Magazine in Survivorship, Sexual Medicine and Menopause.