You’ve heard of the post-sex glow, but did you know you can get shining before doing the deed? Strut into the bedroom with the confidence for a legendary bedroom romp. Here are 10 ways you can gain that confidence and have a great time.

Explore new date night options

Get the blood moving by going dancing! You can also mix it up with another activity that gets the blood moving, like a hike or another outside activity. Not only will this increase energy and fun during the date, but when you get home, keep that energy going in the bedroom (or anywhere else you feel the romance).


Embrace foreplay

Not up for a night on the town? That’s ok, you can do your own version of foreplay at home. Start with a massage. Lay your partner down on the bed and rub out the stress and tension. Go with the flow as your ease your way to more sensual areas.


Try an enhancement cream

While lubricants are a sex essential, there are other enhancements you can add to the experience to go from “oh” to “OMG!” Try out a cream that will add a tingle to your sexual exploits or if you want to extend the pleasure, check out Up All Night. You have many options to try! If you’re new to enhancements, check out this helpful guide.


Get wet

Find a new place to get wild… the shower! You could even take a bath with your partner. Water is a great way to add into the fun. Try out new positions, toys, and locations with the help of this blog.


Dress down with sexy lingerie

Before you fully disrobe, add some nightwear for a little fun. You can be naughty or nice with a comfortable, yet sexy babydoll or go all out with a garter slip. Wear it all day or slip it on when you get home. Allow yourself to feel and be sexy!


Try a new position

Don’t be stuck in a rut. Try out new positions with every sexual experience to find the right one for you! Flip around, replace who’s on top, try standing up. You have plenty of options. Did you know it can affect your orgasm? There is one position that increases your likelihood of orgasming. You can read about it here.

Let your self-care shine

There’s nothing sexier than confidence. Increase yours by applying some Coco Glow a few hours before you plan to get busy and see how your skin shines. Take a calming bath, give yourself a vibrant manicure, or do anything you need to ready yourself for a great night!


Talk dirty to them

Let your partner know exactly what you want during sex with dirty talk. It’s a great way to communicate what you like while also increasing the heat. If you feel like it doesn’t come naturally, check out these pointers so you can be a pro.


Add a toy into the mix

Get great vibes in the bedroom by using a vibrator. This can be anything from a clitoral, vaginal, or dual-action toy. But the most popular toy for couples is a c-ring. This will help a partner with a penis last longer, and the vibration from the clitoral tickler will give you sensations in all the right places. Find your perfect toy here.



Connection. That’s what makes sex great. You’ve seen it in movies, TV shows, and real life. And you can have it too! You don’t create connection with a demure look. Communicate with your partner about what you really want and see how to sparks fly. Flirt during the day, tell them how excited you are about date night, and keep it up in the bedroom.


See how changing things up in the bedroom can change your entire life. Enjoy the glow at all times!

Tori Tromblay

Tori Tromblay

Special Projects Producer
Tori Tromblay (she/her/hers) is a book enthuisiast, cat lover, and Cincinnati native. She graduated from Ohio University with a degree in journalism. After traveling to New York, D.C., London, and Tulsa, she settled back home, where she lives with her husband and two cats. She has worked for Pure Romance for two years and loves to learn and teach about sex education.