There are a lot of myths and misconceptions surrounding the topics of virginity, sex toys, and vaginal health. Our mission is to empower you to take control of your sexual health and wellness. It’s safe to say that most people did not have access to a safe and judgment-free space for sex education, so there can be a lot of uncertainty. It’s our pleasure to provide accurate, informative answers to your burning questions.

Here are a few of the questions our Consultants have been getting lately.

Am I still a virgin if I use a toy?

The notion of virginity is a social construct that has evolved over time and varies across cultures and societies. In contemporary discussions, virginity is often defined as the state of never having engaged in penetrative sexual intercourse. Since using a sex toy does not fall under the traditional definition of sexual intercourse, most people wouldn’t consider a toy capable of changing virginal status.

That said, virginity as a concept has been used to control and manipulate women by patriarchal societies for centuries. The idea that a woman’s worth is tied to her sexual purity is not only outdated, but also scientifically unfounded. The hymen, once believed to be the indicator of virginity, can be broken by a variety of activities such as horseback riding, gymnastics, or even inserting a tampon. Moreover, not all women are born with hymens, making the concept of virginity even more arbitrary.

It’s time to reject the idea of virginity as a measure of a woman’s worth and instead focus on promoting bodily autonomy, healthy sexual education, and consent-based relationships.

Does vibration really help restore vaginal tissues?

Vibration therapy can help restore vaginal tissues by increasing blood flow to the vaginal area. When there’s increased blood flow in the vaginal tissues, there’s an increase in oxygen and nutrients being delivered to the cells, which can help stimulate the growth of new cells and blood vessels. The increased circulation that results from regular vibration therapy can also help to improve vaginal tone and elasticity, leading to increased comfort and muscle control.

Regular use of vibrational therapy can support overall sexual health and can aid in the treatment of conditions such as vaginal dryness and incontinence. Check with a trusted health care provider to determine if vibration therapy is right for you.

How do I properly clean toys?

Cleansing Mist is delightfully easy to work with. After use, all you need to do is rinse your toy and spray it liberally with the mist. Rinse again and pat dry. That’s it! Your toy is clean.

Toys are an investment so avoiding harsh cleaning products that can break them down is a no-brainer. Cleansing Mist is quick, effective and gentle on toys.

How do Kegel balls work?

Kegel balls are weighted vaginal balls that work by strengthening pelvic floor muscles, which can become weakened as a result of childbirth, aging, or other factors. These small, weights are inserted into the vagina, where they rest against the pelvic floor muscles.

To use the Kegel balls, contract the pelvic floor muscles around the balls, essentially lifting them upwards within the vagina. Hold the contraction for a few seconds before releasing, then repeat the process for several sets throughout the day.

By using Kegel balls regularly over time, the pelvic floor muscles can become stronger and more toned, leading to benefits such as improved bladder control and stronger orgasms. It is important to use Kegel balls as instructed, to clean them frequently, and to consult a doctor if you experience any pain or discomfort while using them. The directions for our Ben Wa Balls and all our other products are conveniently located beneath the product features.

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Dalia Kinsey

Dalia Kinsey

Dietitian
Dalia Kinsey is a queer Black Registered Dietitian, keynote speaker, the creator of the Body Liberation for All podcast, and author of Decolonizing Wellness: A QTBIPOC-Centered Guide to Escape the Diet Trap, Heal Your Self-Image, and Achieve Body Liberation. On a mission to spread joy, reduce suffering, and eliminate health disparities in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC community, Dalia rejects diet culture and teaches people to use nutrition as a self-care and personal empowerment tool to counter the damage of systemic oppression. Dalia works at the intersection of holistic wellness and social justice, continually creating wellness tools and resources that center the most vulnerable, individuals that hold multiple marginalized identities. Dalia’s work can be found at https://www.daliakinsey.com/