BDSM. We’re talkin’ about it! Today we’re kicking off our Straps, Slings & Swings Series where we’re breaking down our sensory play products one by one. Let’s start by talking about you, then we’ll do an overview on everything, and finally finish up with BDSM facts!

Who should try BDSM?

Honestly? Anyone! There’s no one gender, body type, role preference, mobility level, or factor that totally excludes you from experimenting. Plus, bondage and roleplay isn’t all whips and chains (unless that’s your thing!). There are a ton of room and elements to shape it into a mutually satisfying experience, whether you’ve got just a toy or two or a whole sex room to play in.

Why try it?

Delving into your desires with a partner can put everyone in a space that forges emotional connection through deeply fulfilling sex and sexual acts. Kink doesn’t have to hurt, and even D/s (dominance and submission) is about mutual satisfaction! As Anton Fulmen puts it in his book “The Heart of Dominance: A Guide to Practicing Consensual Dominance,” “[Those in dominant roles] take an active and positive interest in making sure that the D/s we do together meets our partners’ needs.”

Chances are, bringing BDSM to the bedroom will add a little spice to your sex life no matter what facet you explore. So, the next question is what do you grab for your next adventure?

Now it’s gear overview time.

Frequent Flier Door Swing

This is by far the item that steals the show. This door swing’s a quick and easy install that’ll give your time together a boost, literally. No fixtures or drilling required, just throw it over the door! Positioned in the swing, you’re suspended off the ground so your partner can grab your hips and really get in on the action.

The extra straps at the top can be used as handholds to steady yourself in particularly adventurous positions, while the lower straps can be used around ankles. Sound customizable? It is! Enjoy as you bring your pleasure to the next level.

This is one addition to sexy time we get a lot of questions on, so stay tuned. We’ll get into all the details in an upcoming blog.

Bed, Bondage & Beyond

You’re in for a treat with this next one, our under-the-bed restraint system. The four straps with cuffs are connected to an adjustable center strap so this fits all size mattresses! The padded cuffs are also adjustable to fit every size wrist and/or ankle.

Perks on this one? It easily tucks under the bed for discreet storage. Plus you can position the straps at the sides or the head and foot of the bed for totally different poses and play. 

Onyx Blindfold feat. Tickle & Whip

I feel like this combo’s obvious but also not. It’s easy to think “Oh a blindfold, that’s exciting!” but then wonder how to make it exciting. Blindfolds are all about tuning into your senses and that’s where our double-ended whip comes into play. Tassels at one end and feathers at the other create different (and equally thrilling!) sensations once you’re blindfolded and your senses are heightened. This is perfect for setting the scene for erotic play.

Sexy Spreader

It’s a top seller for a reason! The padded center goes behind your neck while the cuffs go around ankles and help hold them up. If it wasn’t obvious, this helps keep your legs spread during what’s known as “missionary” position. When our future featured blog arrives, be ready for a few special secret uses that you won’t wanna miss.

Onyx Nipple Clamps


The most glam of the lineup is next! Each clamp is adjustable for just the right level of pressure (everyone’s likes are a little different!) They’re connected by a glittery rhinestone chain and pear-shaped gems that tickle the skin between bare breasts. Not sure how clamps work or if they’d be right for you? There’s only one way to find out.

Onyx Handcuffs

Cheers to everyone’s favorite! Our silicone cuffs are the best way to give in or take control during sex. The removeable lobster claw clasp allows for you and a partner to change things up on the fly for sexy surprises. Basics, scene ideas, and more await when we cover this one!

Curiosity piqued? Good. As mentioned before, this is just the start of our series. Every other week, we’ll treat you to another dose of kink with a breakdown on one of the above bondage products!

And if you’re wondering if getting into all this puts you on the fringes or is a sign something’s up with you, know it’s not true. Folks have always been up for getting more risqué. There are studies as far back as 1953 that confirm folks had erotic responses to being bitten! Talk about kinky. On that “something up” angle, there’s no factual basis. BDSM is just an interest and not indicative of pathological or other issues having “normal” sex per this study.

Stay tuned as we take a look at each of these amazing products and give you the how-to, positions, ideas, words of wisdom from our top Consultants, and more. If you just can’t wait or just want a preview, check out our bondage and roleplay gear now. And, in the future, if you want to refresh your knowledge on the gear in this series, click on the “straps, slings, and swings” tag below or search it find product-specific blogs.

We hope you’re excited, ‘cause we definitely are.

Serena Clement

Serena Clement

Serena Clement (she/her/hers) is a Senior Writer at Pure Romance and an aficionado of all things sextech. As a queer BIPOC with a B.A. in English and Minor in Creative Writing, Serena is a fresh, no-nonsense voice in the world of sexuality and wellness. In and out of the office, her interests include crafting engaging copy, celebrating diversity, and up-and-coming sex technology. Her years-long background in both product development and copywriting gives her a unique lens for her career at Pure Romance. And, when not at work on upcoming products, Serena spends time scribbling flash fiction or cozying up on her couch with the latest RPG.