Picture this: you’re in high school in your significant other’s darkened basement. You’re on the couch and things are going horizontal. The heat is rising as you prepare for the handy. But then, you hear the basement door open and you both jump up and struggle to button and straighten before a parent sees something they can’t unsee.
Ah, memories.
The typical hand job may bring back moments like these. But, we’re all for a hand job comeback… with a little bit of education of course. If you’re a beginner or want to perfect your strategy to see better results, read on to give a 10/10 performance!!
Prep your Hands
Preparation is key before giving an expert hand job. And no, it’s not just about washing your hands (but please do). Cut your nails to ensure avoiding unnecessary scratches. Also, moisturize! Not just the day of. Make it a part of your routine. Not only is this good for sexy time, but smooth, hydrated hands will make you feel more confident every day of the week.
Get Comfy
The secret to an amazing sensual experience: comfort. While we all imagine sex against a door while someone is holding you up would be ultra sexy, unfortunately, there is a time limit on how long your partner can hold you. If you feel awkward, they’ll notice. Wear something you feel confident in, do some hand stretches, and get comfy! Some positions we recommend are sitting next to each other, straddling your partner, or having them stand while you kneel. The last one also puts you in a great position to kiss them… all over.
Go Slow
A runner wouldn’t spring 100 meters without warming up and stretching first. It’s the same concept with hand jobs. Slowly make your way downward. Start with soft kisses and strokes as you trail your way down. Even when you’re in the middle of all that passion, keep a solid pace and don’t rush to get it over with. The journey is just beginning and you have a lot more up your sleeves.
Use a Lubricant
We always recommend lubricant because it’s a simple way to enhance any sexual venture. For a hand job, which involves a lot of friction, we recommend using a warming lube. This seemingly magical tool starts off cool but turns up the heat with warm breath or friction. Plus, it comes in a variety of flavors in case your hand job turns into an oral favor. Check out all the options for you to give your partner an exceptional time with any of our lubricants.
Use Pressure
Everyone enjoys something different, so it’s important not to get distracted. Pay attention to how much pressure you’re applying. Too hard? You could accidentally hurt your partner. Too gentle? They’re not getting enough! Pay attention to the sounds they’re making and adjust from there. If they haven’t been moaning in a while, switch up the pressure.
Explore the Area
Don’t limit yourself to just the penis. Just as women have a cluster of nerve endings in their clitoris, men also have more nerve endings in the tip of their penis. Give it some attention throughout the hand job. Also, don’t neglect the balls. Gently squeeze and pull on them, but be aware that some are more sensitive than others and may not enjoy too much action.
Porque No Los Dos?
Translation: why not both of them? You may be used to using only one hand, but mix it up and use both (you’ll have to be in a good position to do this comfortably). What could you possibly do with two hands? Well, use one on top to tantalize all those extra nerves in the tip of the penis while your other hand moves on the bottom. Or softly twist your hands in both directions.
Add Toys
Switching things up doesn’t hurt. If you’re looking to differentiate the feeling, try a masturbator where you can control the speed and pressure as they enjoy a different sensation. A sex toy can also be a great way to add vibration to the taint or balls while you focus on the penis.
Keep it Simple
If you’re new to hand jobs or just trying out a new technique, stick to mastering one before moving on to trickier strategies. If you’re a pro, don’t use all the techniques at once. These can be overwhelming. Stick to two or three and pay attention as your partner enjoys them. The best way to keep it simple is to ask your partner what they enjoy. Communication can take all the confusion out of the bedroom.
Stay the Course
As you’re getting close to the end (or the beginning if this is your foreplay), now is not the time to switch up your technique. The time to switch things up is at the beginning. If your partner is getting excited, keep up the speed, motion, and friction until they give in to ecstasy.
Now we’re handing off the baton so you can become a hand job pro. Practice with all these techniques to make your next bedroom venture one to remember.
