Massage is an extremely underrated intimate activity. It can serve as a reward or gift, be the headline activity of a relaxing night at home or be a wonderful way to simply share time with your partner…not to mention, it’s a great way to spice up foreplay.

So let’s set the mood with a sexy playlist, dim the lights, and light some candles. Here are a few easy tips for a night you’ll both remember.

Set the Mood

Arguably, the most important step, setting the right mood is essential. It’s all about creating the perfect ambiance – and the little things are what matter. Get rid of distractions like TV, phones, and make sure the little ones are in bed. Then turn down the lights, find a relaxing playlist on your favorite streaming service, and grab a few scented candles that can help you and your partner find a romantic vibe.

Grab the Essentials

If you only pick up one thing for your massage, make it a massage oil. The right oil can enhance and create a warm and silky feel that will elevate the entire experience. 

One great choice is Knead Me, our easy-rinse massage oil. Infused with skin-loving botanicals like grape seed, argan, and jojoba seed oils, this oil soothes and moisturizes while enticing the senses with the scent of sparkling coastal waters and a hint of citrus zest.

Or, if you want to heat things up, try Burning Desire. This soy candle gives off an arousing scent as it melts into a warm oil. Drip it along your partner’s body for fun sensory play, then knead away their worries and stress. 

Want to go a step above? Then try our HēLi Massage Oil Infused with Hello Libido. This next-level massage oil combines smooth, moisturizing coconut oil with Hello Libido, a seductive essential oil blend that balances mood-boosting ylang-ylang, stress-relieving lemon balm, and anxiety-reducing sandalwood to excite the senses, invite feelings of passion, and get you in the mood.

Enhance Your Technique

Knowing how to use your hands is simple to learn, but difficult to master. Long strokes, circular motions, varying pressure, and adding knuckles and elbows into the mix are all tried and true techniques that take time to learn and perfect. But it doesn’t have to be difficult! Get more details on how to master a sensual massage here. Stack the cards in your favor with a few additions to your repertoire.

First up: Heart Massager. This reusable heart-shaped heat pack warms to over 129°F/54°C. Use it with some massage oil for the feeling of a hot stone massage. Set it on your partner’s back while you work other areas or rub it up and down their body for relaxing warmth that can help stoke the fires of passion.

Or maybe you’re looking for something a little outside the box? Check out In Good Hands. These silicone gloves are textured along both the palms and the backs to allow you to explore your partner. Just slip them on, add some massage oil, and let your partner sink into sensual bliss. You can even slide in a vibrating bullet to take your foreplay game to the next level! 

And speaking of vibrating…

Add Some Vibes

Ready to take the experience to 11? Then it’s time to add a massager. Vibrating wands can help work out those sore muscles, not to mention add a little spicy fun to your foreplay.

Opening Act is the perfect prelude to the main event. With 30 vibrating functions, it has enough power to get the job done – whether that’s working out knots or teasing hot spots. Use a little pressure and motion to help ease your partner’s muscles, or dance it along their nipples or groin to stimulate and excite. A wand like Opening Act is a fantastic way to both elevate your massage and foreplay game!

Don’t Forget to Communicate!

The most important part of physical intimacy is communication! If you’re receiving the massage, talk about what you do and  don’t like. Is a particular spot a little too sore for that much pressure? Shout it out! Do you have a spot that could use some extra attention? Make it known! And if you’re the massager – listen up! Take in feedback and adjust accordingly. And if your partner isn’t talking, ask questions. Make sure that their silence means you’re doing everything right.

Listen to your bodies too! If it’s time to leave foreplay and get into something more intimate, your body will start letting you know. Just make sure both parties are on the same page to guarantee a fun and sensual evening.

Trey Zink
Trey Zink (He/Him/His) is a writer at Pure Romance. With a degree in Graphic Design from the University of Cincinnati, Trey floated around the packaging and branding world for 10+ years, designing and writing for brands such as Tide, Welch’s, and Miracle-Gro. He eventually pivoted careers, trading packaging, logos, and signage for rhymes, puns, and alliteration. Outside of work, Trey enjoys video games, soccer, and melancholy songs.