Bondage is all about giving in to vulnerability and letting your partner take control. Or, alternatively, grasping power, taking charge, and bending your partner to your will (all in the name of pleasure). We’re exploring a few products and positions perfect for bondage beginners, as well as some more advanced positions for those enticed by more erotic fantasies. If you and your partner are looking to dabble in domination and submission, this is a great place to start.
The 411
Kink and bondage may not be for everyone, but it’s something that everyone should explore. You know what they say: don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it.
With all these positions, please remember to take care and communicate with your partner if something unintended is happening in your brain or body. The positions may start tame, but as we move through the list, they’ll get a little more involved and a lot more compromising. Some may be uncomfortable for those with claustrophobia or those who lack flexibility.
So, stretch! Safely explore those fears (if you’re able!), and make sure you’ve got something to lean against (or at least a soft landing spot!) And remember: the possibilities are endless, so don’t limit yourself to just these few examples.
Fun comes with the exploration.
Hits The Spot
Pain and pleasure finally come together with Hits The Spot, our vibrator/flogger combo. This dual-ended toy is a great way to introduce sensory and impact play into the bedroom. It also gives you a powerful vaginal vibrator.
Teasing in the Dark
One way to start exploring with Hits The Spot is to blindfold your partner, have them lay back and relax, then begin moving the flogger up and down their body. Pay attention to all those little spots that make them shiver. Tickle them with the dangling ends or slide the tassels along their body for sensual sensory play that will prime you both for a night of passion.
And if the mood strikes… maybe you do too.
Come From Behind
Maybe you’re looking for a little more…control. Come From Behind is our position strap that lets one partner take charge. Plus, it gives a little extra leverage to your nightly escapades. The simplicity of the strap allows it to be incorporated into a variety of positions. But it’s specially designed to enhance doggie-style – and that’s the perfect way to start exploring!
Doggie on a Leash
Every classic deserves a remix. Doggie-style with Come From Behind does not disappoint. Just wrap the cushioned pad around the front partner’s waist, while the back partner slides their hands through the loops and grasps the strap for perfect leverage. No more fingernails digging into your side, no more sore spots in the morning.
While positioned against the abdomen, the strap compresses the vaginal canal for a tighter sensation, and also provides a better angle for G-spot or prostate stimulation. What could be better?
The Bull Rider
No more balancing on your partner’s knees or against the headboard. Just wrap the padded part of the strap under the bottom partner’s back then the top partner can grab the straps to improve balance and increase leverage and penetration. Just ride off into that sunset for a brilliant finish.
Permission To Please
If you’re looking to explore the broader horizons of bondage, Permission to Please is for you. This set includes a paddle and a crop, for those who enjoy the painful pleasure of impact play, a blindfold to help you get lost in the moment and enjoy every sensation, as well as arm restraints that will allow you to give in to sultry submission. Our Permission To Please bondage set provides you with everything you need to begin delving into the wider world of kink.
Before we get into the positions: unless you’re experienced with the world of BDSM, we caution against overtightening the arm restraints. Claustrophobic fear responses are natural with items like this. Even having the knowledge that one can escape a situation easily can ease the mind and prepare it for fun. Similarly, unless you’re intimately familiar with impact play and know exactly what you like, we recommend starting with the paddle – the flat piece with the strap on the handle. It provides a wider surface area and is easier to control compared to the crop – the piece with the rod and ribbon stitching. The crop gives more of a sting that may be too intense for newbies.
Bent & Bound
It’s amazing how small additions can transform traditional positions. Simply introducing the Permission To Please cuffs into the equation, gives this bent-over position a whole new dimension of control and vulnerability.
With the receiver’s bound arms behind their back, the giving partner can use their arms and cuffs to pull them backwards. This provides better leverage and deeper penetration. For an extra dose of excitement, cover the receiving partner’s eyes with the mask and let them get lost in the moment.
At Your Service
Now, if you’re looking to take advantage of the entire Permission To Please set, this position is for you. Here, the submissive partner puts on the arm restraints and is then placed on all fours (you can also use a piece of furniture to lessen any stress on the body). Add in the blindfold to heighten their senses and up their anticipation.
Once the sub is in position, the dominant partner uses the paddle or crop along the sub’s body (remember: no low back!) to tickle, tease… or show them who’s boss. This position also leaves the sub’s lower body open and ready for all sorts of fun and exploration.
Bare It All
Now we’re getting into some real hardware! Bare It All is our spreader bar and cuff set. It features an expandable metal bar and four soft Velcro cuffs. The cuffs are detachable. You can use them in any combination along the bar. They can even be connected to each other to be used as more traditional handcuffs. Bare It All is incredibly versatile, able to be utilized in a variety of ways to allow for simple control or a variety of compromising positions.
Similar to the arm restraints, we recommend not overtightening Bare It All’s cuffs unless you’re experienced with this type of play. Loose is alright! And keeping them looser can make exploration all the easier, safer, and more comfortable.
The Rooftop Bar
How about that view? This standing position locks one partner into the spreader bar. It holds their legs apart and their wrists strapped down between their ankles. This provides not just the aforementioned view, but also plenty of pleasurable possibilities from behind. This can include playful teasing with hands, toys, and sensory devices, or a dominant position for sex.
Froggie-Style
Talk about an ultra-comprising position. Like the previous position, this one has the receiving partner’s arms and legs bound by the bar. This time, they’re face down on the bed or ground, at their partner’s mercy, just waiting. You can even flip the bound partner onto their back, leaving them open and ready for even more. I mean, we named the bar Bare It All for a reason.
This is the ultimate spreader bar position for those who gain pleasure from feeling powerless, and those who like to take total control.
There’s Always More To Explore
When it comes to kink and bondage, not everything is going to be for everyone. But every fantasy is worth exploring. Let this article serve as jumping-off point to your dip into kink and bondage. Never be afraid to try something new or admit something isn’t for you (after trying it of course!)
Did this article whet your appetite? Are you looking to dive even deeper into the world of kink and bondage? Check out BDSM For Beginners, our guide to starting out, branching out, and immersing yourself into the world of BDSM.
