There are many words to describe sex. Fun, steamy, kinky, taboo. Those are just a few. But dangerous? That’s not on my to-do list. You may think the most dangerous sex position would include someone picking up their partner and getting it on mid-air or maybe getting frisky in a moving car, but this position is more common than you think.

The most dangerous sex position is… the reverse cowgirl.

Not what you expected, right? Turns out, this position is well known for causing penile fractures (just remember “New Girl” and Schmidt’s unfortunate injury). How do we know? A doctor went viral on TikTok claiming the position is responsible for half of all penile fractures. We do have some data to back up the claim. Yes, scientists have looked into it.

But, it’s also an extremely popular position since a woman being on top is the best position to reach orgasm. That extra access for clitoral stimulation and different angle for the g-spot can put the partner on bottom in a position that is more risky than risqué

How Can This Even Happen?

While it isn’t common, the position allows for the possibility of trauma to the penis. This can happen with abrupt or awkward movement with sex. There are no bones in male genitalia (despite the name boner), but the penile fracture actually involves a tear that can happen when it slips out and is then crushed by the partner’s pelvis.

The result is that the penis can start to look like the actual eggplant emoji, purple and swollen. Other signs of a fracture include pain, a cracking sound, and loss of erection. Ouch. If you see any of these symptoms, go to a healthcare provider. If left untreated, it could result in a permanent curve or erectile dysfunction. 

How to Keep your Man Safe and your Bed Rocking

Use a Lubricant

First and foremost, a lubricant is always a plus when having sex. It reduces friction and increases fun. In this case, it can also reduce risk of injury. There are no negatives, all positives with adding a lube. We recommend a water-based lubricant that is great for everyday use.

Slow it Down

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment. But avoid going fast and furious with this dangerous sex position. Slow it down and get in the groove. Let the partner on the bottom take over with slow and controlled movement. 

Create a Safe Word

Communication is key in the bedroom. Use a safe word so your partner knows when to stop if the other person is uncomfortable or in pain. Better yet, use the Red, Yellow, Green method. If your partner says “red,” that means stop right away. If they use “yellow,” that means use caution. “Green” means keep going. This is a great way to make sure everyone is having fun. 

Go Ride ‘Em Cowgirl!

Now that you know the dangers, it’s time to forge ahead into unknown (or well-known) territory. Climb into that saddle and have fun on your adventures!

Tori Tromblay

Tori Tromblay

Special Projects Producer
Tori Tromblay (she/her/hers) is a book enthuisiast, cat lover, and Cincinnati native. She graduated from Ohio University with a degree in journalism. After traveling to New York, D.C., London, and Tulsa, she settled back home, where she lives with her husband and two cats. She has worked for Pure Romance for two years and loves to learn and teach about sex education.