No matter what happened in 2023, let’s look to the future and what could change in 2024. Many common resolutions, like eat less sugar, exercise more regularly, and improve sleep will only last the first weeks. Ring in the new year right by focusing on sexual pleasure and orgasmic fun.

Ask for What you Want

Be sexually assertive! Don’t feel ashamed or guilty about asking for things. Now is the time to focus on your own sexual self-care.

Solo Pleasure

Some feel that masturbation or self-pleasuring is over-indulgent. Really, self-pleasure allows you to explore your body. You can also better understand your erotic response and erogenous zones. This year, take the time to learn about your body.

New Sex Toys

Many women still feel shy about buying a vibrator or other sexual accessories. Allow yourself the opportunity to shop, buy, and use a new sex toy to enhance your sexual eroticism.

Vow to Not Fake

Some women may pretend to have orgasms, despite the fact that they did not achieve their pinnacle of sexual release. The reason may be to protect your partner’s feelings. Don’t feign an orgasm but consider open communication with your partner. Focus on remedies that could improve your sexual situation.

Prolong Foreplay

We are often goal-oriented and focused on achieving simultaneous orgasms. Don’t become so focused on the finish line that you forget about the journey. Pledge to focus on erotic foreplay. Prolong outercourse. Make the journey full of erotic sensation. Consider prolonged sessions of oral sex or an erotic shower to get the sexual energy charging!


Accept your body, your age, and physical appearance without judgement, criticism, or guilt. Sexual dynamism comes in all shapes and sizes. Focusing on our potentially minor shortcomings may distract from sexual self-esteem and impact our sexual experience.


Change up your sexual script. Try a new position or discover a new body part. Sexual exploration may bring great and pleasurable rewards. Consider reading sexually oriented books. Research online if you need some suggestions. Try reading erotic stories or watching some porn.

Take Some Risk

Fulfill your sexual fantasies. Interested in trying a blindfold? Want to experiment with naughty sexual positions? Pushing yourself out of your hum drum comfort zone may ignite your sexual spark.

Have More Sex

The stars do not always need to be aligned to engage in sexual intimacy. Commit to having more sex, more often. Focus on increasing your pleasure for the upcoming year.

It’s time to put the debacles of last year behind us.

Having empowering resolutions for sexual exploration means 2024 will begin with a BANG!

Michael Krychman
Michael L. Krychman, MDCM, is the Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine located in Newport Beach California. He is the former Co Director of The Sexual Medicine and Rehabilitation Program at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer. He also is a clinical sexologist and has completed his Masters in Public Health and Human Sexuality. Dr Krychman has a degree in Erotology, Sexual Education and Forensic Sexology. Dr Krychman is also an AASECT certified sexual counselor. He is an Associate Clinical Professor at the University of California Irvine, Division of Gynecological Oncology and the Medical Director of Ann’s Clinic, a high-risk program for Breast and Ovarian Cancer Survivors.

His special interests include menopausal health, hormone therapy, sexual pain disorders, and loss of libido, chronic medical illness and medical devices and their impact on female sexual function. He is a well-known speaker who is featured locally, nationally and internationally. He has published many articles in peer-reviewed journals and has been featured in many scientific journals and lay magazines. Dr Krychman is an active reviewer for the Journal of Sexual Medicine. He was the Scientific Chairman for the 2010 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health annual educational meeting. He is an active member in good standing in North American Menopause (NAMS), International Society sexual Medicine (ISSM), European Society Sexual Medicine (ESSM), International Society Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), American Society of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). He was a member of the Standard Committee for ISSM and has been a guest professor at the ESSM Sexual Medicine Summer School in Oxford, England. He was the creator of the recent WISH Initiative (Women’ Initiative on Sexual Health: and the 2013 recipient of the WISH Outstanding Achievement award given by the ISSWSH. He is also on the professional advisory board for the Patty Brisben Foundation.

Dr. Krychman’s has published 7 books including his most recent one: The Sexual Spark, 20 Essential Exercises to Reignite the Passion, 100 Questions & Answers for Women Living with Cancer: A Practical Guide to Female Cancer Survivorship has been recently published, 100 Questions and Answers about Women’s Sexual Wellness and Vitality and Breast cancer Sexuality, Sensuality and Intimacy. He has been featured on the Today show and in the New York Times and US News and World Report World Report, The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Health Magazine and many others. He was named one of Orange County Top Doctors for 2015 and 2016 in Menopause, Sexual Dysfunction and Vulvar Pain. In 2019 and again in 2020, he has been named an Orange County Physician of Excellence by Orange Coast Magazine in Survivorship, Sexual Medicine and Menopause.