Resolutions are often made with the best of intentions, but they don’t always work out as planned. This is the case for a few reasons.

  1. Resolutions are often based on things that we feel we should do, rather than things we really want to do. This can make them feel like a chore, which makes it harder to stick to them.
  2. They’re often unrealistic, which can set us up for failure.
  3. They’re often so rigid and specific that they don’t make room for real life. If our bandwidth changes, we fail. If our motivation shifts, we fail.

Why set a theme for 2024?

So- how about setting a theme vs. a resolution, it’s time to switch it up! A theme is a word or phrase that represents the intention, vibe, or energy you want to cultivate in the coming year. It can be something narrow, like novelty/new experiences, or something more general, like balance or connection. Having a theme helps keep you focused and motivated all year long, and is far more likely to be successful than a resolution.

Whether you’re trying to improve your sex life or just want to spice it up a little, here are five theme ideas to help you feel  more sexually fulfilled in 2024.


Playfulness is a great way to connect with your partner and create moments of joy. It can also be a great way to relieve stress and tension and boost your mood.

If you’re looking to add a bit more playfulness to your bedroom repertoire, here are a few ideas to get you started. Try incorporating playful activities like roleplaying or improvisation. Also, add in playful props like feathers, blindfolds, and massage oils that can add an extra element of fun.


If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s easy to get into a sexual rut. You know what turns your partner on, and you stick to those tried-and-true moves. But that can make sex feel routine and boring over time.

If you’re looking to spice things up, experiment with new activities, positions, and locations. You can also experiment with different ways of touching and talking to your partner. Be open to trying new things, and don’t be afraid to invite your partner to bring their imagination to the bedroom as well.  If ever you feel uninspired just head to our blog is also for creative bedroom ideas, like introducing food into the bedroom or building a sex room.


Shame and inhibition are major obstacles to having an out-of-this-world, fulfilling sex life.  Removing any inhibition that may be holding you back is a powerful thematic focus. The benefits from your progress will ripple throughout your sex life. This may mean overcoming shyness or insecurity, as well as any judgment or preconceived notions that you may have about sex.

Start with small ways to expand your comfort level. Experiment with mastering dirty talk, try a boudoir shoot that helps you see how inherently appealing your body is, strip for your partner, try lingerie that makes you feel stunning, sext your partner, or have sex in front of a mirror.


There’s nothing quite like feeling luxurious or decadent in bed. Whether it’s the silky feel of the sheets against your skin, the plump pillows cradling your head, or the downy comforter cocooning you, it’s hard to beat the feeling of utter relaxation.

When you add in a few special touches like scented candles, a sensual playlist, high-end toys, and luxurious lotions, you can create an oasis of pleasure fit for royalty.  Treat yourself like a queen and allow your partner to follow suit. Be vocal about what you want and need.


When you’re in the driver’s seat, you can dictate the pace, intensity, and overall experience. You’re in control of your pleasure, and you can make sure that your partner enjoys themselves as well. It’s a hot, empowering feeling, and it’s one that can really deepen the connection between you and your partner.

So, if you’re looking to take your sex life up a notch, start taking control and see where it takes you. Things like light bondage and introducing a strap-on can all be places to start as you experiment with power play in the bedroom. Click here for more on how to introduce kink into the bedroom.

With these sample themes to spark your imagination, you have what you need to set an inspired intention to make the most of your sex life in the coming year. So what are you waiting for? Get to work on making 2024 the best year yet for your sex life!

Dalia Kinsey

Dalia Kinsey

Dalia Kinsey is a queer Black Registered Dietitian, keynote speaker, the creator of the Body Liberation for All podcast, and author of Decolonizing Wellness: A QTBIPOC-Centered Guide to Escape the Diet Trap, Heal Your Self-Image, and Achieve Body Liberation. On a mission to spread joy, reduce suffering, and eliminate health disparities in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC community, Dalia rejects diet culture and teaches people to use nutrition as a self-care and personal empowerment tool to counter the damage of systemic oppression. Dalia works at the intersection of holistic wellness and social justice, continually creating wellness tools and resources that center the most vulnerable, individuals that hold multiple marginalized identities. Dalia’s work can be found at